When I finished university in 2014, social media became boring very quickly. I knew I wanted to start a blog eventually so about a year after graduating I started The Sol Lifestyle and it brought more purpose to my social media utilisation.
Now here I am with www.bolasol.co.uk and www.refinedcurrency.co.uk – 2 things that started off as a passion (still is) has now become a business. I wanted to put in brackets (somewhat a business) but when you believe in what you’re producing you’ve got to say it with your chest! When companies start messaging you and treating you like a business you know it’s time to take your passion to the next level mentally.
There are so many things I have learned so far and I would love to share 6 of them with you.
1.The Guilt Trip
There are some things people will ask of you and sometimes you may feel like you have to say yes but you don’t. There is nothing wrong with saying no to something that doesn’t serve you or what you stand for, especially when you are building a name for yourself. Naturally, some people may want a piece of someone else’s pie and if you don’t think it’s worth it just say no and mean it. Let your yes be your yes and your no be your no (I love that Bible scripture!).
2. The “Beg Friend”
Where do I start with this one? Wherever we go in life we can not get there alone. So it’s important to network and find mentors. Sometimes it may feel like you’re trying too hard. Resist the temptation to listen to the inner voice that says, “You’re being an idiot, go back and stand in the corner and eat your cupcake quietly.” Keep meeting people and genuinely stay in touch with them.
3. Instagram vs Real Life
Right, I could go on for days about this. Instagram isn’t everybody’s real life. Everyone has different uses for Instagram. Some people use it to show good times and some use it to advertise themselves as a brand or business. When I choose a picture to put on Instagram I literally ask friends for advice. I then think about lighting and filters. When you’re advertising yourself you put on your Sunday best and you work that camera to the death! In real life, I’m strolling down to Brixton market in my house dress trying to pick plantain for my mum! Being active on social media takes a lot of work so I don’t see the harm in making it as beautiful as possible. This is actually what some people do full time so why shouldn’t they put out the best versions of themselves?
4. The Elevator Pitch
There is no shame in introducing yourself to someone and giving them a quick summary of what you do. That’s your time to let them know who you are and what you’re doing in this world. It’s not a bad thing as long as you let the other person talk too! Ask them questions and be genuine – 2 ears, 1 mouth (often forgotten). Get yourself out there and make conversations, nobody is going to know who you are if you don’t tell them. P.S. You can also do this over email if there’s someone, in particular, you want to reach out to.
5. The “Others”
The others refer to many people. People who are just starting out. People who are doing the same thing as you. It’s so important to support one another and be as graceful as possible when climbing the ladder. For us women especially, we’ve got to stick together and realise there is GENUINELY room at the top for all of us. We will climb different ladders, we have different stories and different paths. Also, we should never compare ourselves or our journey. It’s so unique and so personal. Of course, it’s great to be inspired by others but love your journey. Even when she performs at The Super Bowl or drops a surprise album or just slays life I have to remind myself that it’s okay that I’m not Beyoncé. *sigh*
Don’t you dare give up on yourself. We are so much more than our excuses and temporary moods. Those that put in the work on the days they don’t feel like it is those who reap the long term rewards. Some days will be worse than others but we’ve got to push through that.