Even as I start this post, I question how vulnerable I want to be.
During this quarantine, I’m pretty sure I had at least 2 nervous breakdowns.
As the world was at a standstill, I felt like I couldn’t breakdown in peace. There felt like no time to mourn through anything.
Bills still needed to be paid and capitalism continued to rule over any serenity I had planned.
Whilst I don’t feel I have the heart to go into the ins and outs of what’s going on with me, I do want to offer some self-care tips that have really helped. I hope they help you too.
- Set boundaries like no other.
If I don’t want to do it, the answer is no. Look people square in the eye and let them know that no is a full sentence. If someone calls me out of the blue? I don’t pick up unless I feel like it. Choose yourself first every single time.
- Don’t force it.
Back in the day, I wanted to keep friendships so badly that I forgot to be a friend to myself first. Anyone who wants to leave can now find the door.
- Speak up and don’t conform.
People always want to box us in as humans. Never in my life have I got so many suggestions about what I should and shouldn’t do. People forget that my name is Bola Sol and the Sol is a quadruple entendre. One of the meanings is that I’m willing to walk alone, solo. This one life is mine so let me have it. When people get too familiar, I speak up, let them know I’m uncomfortable and adjust accordingly. Miss me with this Susie Homemaker niceness that women do. Matthew 5:37
- Take random days off.
Remember that we are human beings, not human doings.
Give yourself the privilege to chill.
- Spend some change.
Listen, I get that during quarantine we may all have saved some money but every now and again, one likes some new shoes or clothes or a brunch! Enjoy your hard-earned coins from time to time. If quarantine has taught me anything, it’s that tomorrow isn’t promised. Live for today, prepare for tomorrow.
This is a really short post but I missed writing and this website is my safe space.
Thank you for reading, you could have been anywhere else mentally but you chose this post.
God bless you always.